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Saturday, 4 May 2019

3 Things That Can Save You When You Don’t Know What To Say in dating

You are dating a beautiful but a shy girl or one  that is not a talkie. You have already talked  about your hobbies, your families and your jobs  and nothing else come into your mind and she is  not really helping you (that’s what you believe).
One of the best ways of having a good, healthy  and wholesome chat with your girlfriend is to  start with small talk. The small talk will give  you a general picture about her likes and  dislikes, as well as what she would like to  discuss and what she would rather leave alone.  Once the small talk gives you a general idea, you  can go ahead and discuss your common likes and  dislikes.
But what is really freaking you are those moment  of silence. Uhh... horrible moments. :) The key  to avoid or get over these horrible moments are:

1. Compliment her
The fact is most people are shy about meeting new  people. I used to be enormously shy. But when you  think about it, shyness is merely a fear that  others won't like you, or that you may be  rejected in some way. It's natural for us to  desire acceptance. So try to make her know that  you like her by making a compliment. But find  something that you really find attractive about  her, about her lifestyle or her personality.  She  will become more confident and more open to share
her believes and her shyness won’t be a problem  for a fluid conversation.
2. Asking open questions
How you ask questions is very important in  establishing a basis for an effective  communication. Effective questions open the door  to knowledge and understanding. The art of  questioning lies in knowing which questions to  ask when.
My favorites questions are "why" and "how"  questions. You can use these frequently without  being annoying. She will feel that you are  interested in what she is telling you and will  develop her answers.
Therefore, you should think carefully before  speaking and taking up subjects that might be  repugnant to her.

3. Listen, listen, and listen.
Usually when the woman starts talking about her  favorite subjects (feelings, family,  relationships, friends and her work) many men  lose interest or bring the conversation back to  themselves. This is one of the biggest mistake  men are doing all the time.
They also like to exchange jokes and anecdotes  and spend a fair amount of time playing one-up  and boasting. Stop doing that!!!
Allow HER to have HER points of view, while you  have yours. Men have felt like they have either  had to abandon their own beliefs in order to try  to get a woman, OR they had to fight with women  about what they believe in. Both approaches lead  to failure. She is not there with you just to hear about your  hero "qualities", but to have a great time!

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